somebody you love or somebody who loves you?

i remember a question asked by a friend: which one would you choose, somebody you love or somebody who loves you?

it made me think for a while, then i refuse to answer. i would really like to say that i would, of course, choose the one i love. But then it would also be a slap on my face...because i know that person would choose the one he loves, not the one who loves him. And I am not the person he loves. [sniff]